PAULA: What now?
Paula is twenty seven years old and was born in 1986 on February 23rd. In NUMEROLOGY The # 5 stands for ADVENTURE, CREATIVITY and the vice of PRIDE. It correlates to the sign LEO (it is # 5 in the series of 12 signs).
Paula is PISCES with a LEO ASCENDANT and a LIBRA MOON.
Like Hollywood actress Jessica Alba, she has the typical Piscean beauty (Pisces is the opposite of Virgo, the virgin. Many attractive people are born under Virgo). Her Leo ascendant makes her sexy. And the Libra Moon will incline her to be cooperative, yielding, and co-dependent.
She suspects her boyfriend of cheating on her with her best friend. Everyone, according to Paula, knows it but her. She doesn't want to believe that her friend of 15 years would do that to her.
"Why not?" I asked
"He wouldn't do that to me..." She nodded, uncertain
"You don't sound convinced to me, Paula", I admitted
" I don't. Don't I?"
"Are you asking me?"
"What does the chart say?"
"What does your heart say?" I countered.
"That he's cheating on me?"
"Is that what you're telling me?"
"...I don't know..."
"Yes you do, Paula"
"I refuse to believe it-not to me!" She cried
"Are you guys intimate?"
"I can't bring myself to sleep with him anymore..."
"Have you lost sexual attraction for him?"
"I'm just mad at him! You don't go out with a knock out like me, to be cheated on!"
And there it is. The LEO ASCENDANT and the vice of PRIDE. No matter what sign you are, if you have a LEO ASCENDANT you will FEEL entitled, and HIGHLY OFFENDED if the object of your desire "strays". Her heart knows the answer to her question. But her LIBRA MOON wants to put the Ego in the middle of a fence, thus becoming indecisive, and hiding behind "inaction". FEAR fuels this indecision.
"What is your fear?"
"I don't want to be alone. I miss him when we are not together"
"Do you tell him how you feel?"
"Are you kidding. Anytime we talk about feelings, he darts towards the door!"
"You know him for a long time. What have you observed about him?"
"I know he hates his father and his mother she's nice, but I never got the feeling that they were close either"
"And how does she treat you?"
"Briefly. Very guarded when I come around her"
'And how do you feel about her?"
"Aahg. I can take it or leave it"
"does your girlfriend, the one you suspect of sleeping with your boyfriend, look like you?"
"What do you mean?"
"Does she dress like you. is she attractive, 'desirable', like you?"
"What does that mean 'not really'?"
"She's ghetto" She breathed, with total disdain
"Why do you think he would go with a ghetto girl. What do you suppose ghetto girls do?"
"Head. I know he likes that..."
"You look surprised?"
"But you threw me a 'hell no' a minute ago?!" I gagged
I mean really? Seriously? She doesn't like to engage in oral sex?
That's a TOUGH ONE!
ALL MEN on the PLANET enjoy oral sex (and I'm strictly speaking women on men action here). She should not have ANY sexual intercourse until she's COMPLETELY READY. Otherwise her relationships are apt to suffer considerably. By then, hopefully she'll meet a sensitive partner that will put her emotional needs and fears ahead of his own and guide her sexually. Ms. Pisces definitely needs such type of man. And that's a beautiful thing.
The Leo ascendant will not allow her to engage in sexual acts in which she may feel 'degraded' (and for most women, oral sex is a form of degradation, if they feel objectified in this way: but the key here being BEING MADE TO FEEL LIKE...).
Otherwise there's nothing wrong for a woman to engage in the act or not to. But for the right reasons, not out of shame or obligation.